Arguing

There is an underlying reason why arguments start. Undisclosed secrets, half-truths, and incomplete information are the seeds from which argument germinates. Winning a spat makes us feel superior. On the negative side, losing an argument makes us lose face in front of our workers. Some disagreements originate from blaming another worker. Automatically, they defend their stance. Successful people choose their battles. Some reasons are based on principle. When it is inconsequential, feel free to back off and let the other person appear to win.

All arguments are negative and need to be avoided. Arguing digs a deeper hole instead of leveling the field or coming to any agreement. Dale Carnegie states that nine times out of ten arguments end with each person becoming more convinced than ever that their point of view is absolutely right. Another person of history after years of observation agreed with Mr. Carnegie. For the last fifty years of his life the great diplomat Benjamin Franklin forbid himself to abruptly contradict anyone or personally engage in an argument.